Alone time
Many of us are often not able to afford such a luxury. When we can make room for this sacred space, however, what is the best approach? Let us first consider the purpose: mental decompression, emotional regulation, and spiritual practice are common examples. Determining our 'why' can help us prioritize. We may then consider setting a goal. And then one of the biggest challenges: when!?
Now more than ever before, our days are filled with stimuli -- a relentless flood of information and imagery constantly competing for our attention. Research is still in the early stages of understanding how this affects us physiologically. Regardless of any scientific conclusions, many of us are aware that we can feel overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, tired, and many other emotions that point us toward taking a break. Of course, over-stimulation may just be one of many factors contributing to this need. Let's recharge.
HOW TO BE ALONE:
Meditation: There are many ways to meditate. Start simple. Example: bookend your day with 4 minutes of 4x4 or box breathing (4 seconds inhale through your nose, 4 seconds hold in your diaphragm/belly, 4 seconds exhale through your mouth, 4 seconds pause, then repeat) in the morning and evening. Allow thoughts to come and go like clouds in the sky. Focus on your breath.
Journaling: There are many ways to journal. Think through what works best for you to process your thoughts and feelings. Long form, bullet points, or outline? Audio or video recordings? A device you can password protect or good old fashioned paper & pen? A format to consider from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is TFB. Ask yourself, what am I Thinking, how am I Feeling, and what do I Believe?
Prayer: There is no one way to pray. Depending on your faith or religious affiliation, you may already have a go to method. Whether your purpose is rooted in a daily discipline or deepening your spiritual connection, it may be helpful to revisit what works for you. Obedience and relationship can co-exist. If you don't know where to begin, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and start a conversation.
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